Straight mans first gay experience

Falling in love with my straight leading friend

Most gay people would lament ‘falling’ for a direct guy. At the same time, I know many who have this twisted association to it because it’s the ‘forbidden fruit’. ‘Turning’ a straight young man ‘gay’ is a fantasy that some gay men just have. Before you jump on and judge them, it stems from the innate human craving to simply pursue what we recognize is well beyond our reach. When I was finding my own sexuality and coming to terms with it, I fell for my straight top friend. I ponder it might hold been the optimal thing that happened for our partnership because eight years later, he’s the one person I still turn to for anything.

Gay men have toxic masculine traits too

Being ‘gay’ just means we’re sexually attracted to other males, but a whole part of our pre-revelation experience is quite synonymous with most heterosexual males. Most of our parents saw gender as a direct relation to sexuality. So yes, I held on to the toxic notion that as a male:

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  Do you remember your first time? Your first trial with another guy? Your first story with another gay guy?

  It's that first moment of total pleasure when everything else disappears, and those weird “feelings” suddenly make complete feeling. Suddenly, everything falls into place: you're not a freak of nature or “different”, simply experiencing the simple joys that you were born to enjoy.

  For most gay guys, our first gay experience is usually a moment of revelation and clarity that eventually leads to our own acceptance and the urge to tell the world. For others, it's a complete disaster that we prefer to forget… although one thing's for sure, you will never truly forget it!

  In this post, we asked a few of our friends from around the planet to share their first gay experience with us, whether it was a first-time gay k&#;ss, their first gay love story, or something a bit more spicy(!)… and we've set it all out right here. You'll also want to check out our own love story of how we first met each other.

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  People are all too swift to pigeonhole bisexual and pansexual guys. Dating someone femme-presenting? You’re straight. Digital dating someone on the masculine side? Secretly gay and not ready to own up it. Dating a genderfluid person who presents androgynously? Also gay, probably.

  The thing is, bi and pan (short for “pansexual”) guys exist – I comprehend, because I am one. These fundamental misconceptions swirl around mainstream gay scenes and straight spaces alike. I once had a threesome with two same-sex attracted German guys and afterwards one playfully referred to me as a “baby queer” – erm, no, I’m just as gay as you mate; did you not notice when I was sucking your dick?

  But let’s say you’re a guy who’s realised that, like me, you might not be totally straight – but you’ve only ever been in heterosexual relationships. You’re keen to explore, but you’re also anxious about the whole thing. Does that sound like you? In honour of Bisexuality Visibility Week, here are some pointers to help you navigate the terrain. Not you? Maybe still read on, so you can realize our sexuality a petty better.

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  Tips for cis men who long to try sex with other cis men – in a safe and respectful way

  To begin, I&#;d like to clarify that this article is not necessarily about questioning your sexuality. Everyone should be able to explore their curiosities in a pleasurable and positive way, and it&#;s significant to understand that you can try new things without subscribing to any fixed labels. These tips are for cis men who want to try sex with other cis men, in a safe and respectful manner.

  Note: ‘cisgender men’ or ‘cis men’ refers to men who were assigned male at birth, based on having a penis and other biological characteristics, and determine as men too.Cis is the opposite of trans. We confer trans men morehere, andhere’s some support and advice about navigating sex and relationshipsfor trans men and trans masculine people.

  1. Be honest from the get-go that you&#;re curious

  Whether you want to hook up with someone you&#;re already acquainted with (usually a gym bro, according to most porn), or you&#;ve been involved in a charged emoji swap on Grindr,&n