Gay things to say

NOTE: These were compiled directly from followers on my Instagram. If these do not resonate with you and you are comfortable being asked these things, that’s great!

But I offer a gentle reminder that just because you are comfortable answering these questions does NOT mean that everyone else should also be.

Having the emotional space & grounding & energy to address these questions is a privilege that not everyone holds. Though I personally am comfortable answering many of these, my comfort and personal privilege of energy & grounding does not mean that people should ask these questions, nor does it intend that all trans people must answer them!

For Things NOT to say to Trans People, visit this page.

And without further ado, Things NOT to speak to Queer People–

1. ‍“IT’S JUST A PHASE!”, “YOU’RE MAKING THIS UP!”, “THIS IS JUST A TREND!”
   ‍Being Gay is almost never a phase. People are not gay or trans or bi because ”it’s cool.” Being LGBTQ+ in this world is often very difficult and many gender non-conforming folks I know spent y

   14 Things You Should Never Say To A Male lover Man

   I know you don't mean to be revolting. I know you're just trying to connect with me. But even if I'm a little stereotypical, I'm not just a stereotype churned out of the factory of Sex and the City's tokenism. And if you really want to be friends, I would appreciate it if you never said any of the following:

   1. "I have the ideal guy for you. He's so cute!"

   We just met. You literally perceive nothing about me except that I'm gay. And let's be real, your friend is probably not actually that cute. You know that stereotype about gay men having impossibly high standards? It's not completely wrong.

   2. "Gay guys love me!"

   The girls who say this sort of thing are usually hot messes. Don't receive me wrong, I cherish a freakum-dress-wearing, binge-drinking, big-hair-don't-care wild child as much as the next guy, but there's something a little scary about a woman who thinks of herself as the male lover equivalent of catnip.

   3. "I'm like a male lover man trapped inside a woman's body."

   I know you're trying to connect wi

   List of Diverse terms

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   Abro (sexual and romantic)

   A synonyms used to explain people who own a fluid sexual and/or romantic orientation which changes over time, or the course of their life. They may use different terms to describe themselves over time.

   Ace

   An umbrella term used specifically to describe a lack of, varying, or occasional experiences of sexual attraction. This encompasses asexual people as skillfully as those who identify as demisexual and grey-sexual. Ace people who encounter romantic attraction or occasional sexual attraction might also apply terms such as gay, bi, woman loving woman, straight and gender non-conforming in conjunction with asexual to portray the direction of their romantic or sexual attraction.

   Ace and aro/ace and aro spectrum

   Umbrella terms used to describe the wide group of people who exposure a lack of, varying, or occasional experiences of intimate and/or sexual attraction, including a lack of attraction. People who identify under these umbrella terms may describe themselves using one or more of a wide variety of terms, including, but not limited to, asexual, ace,
   
   

   What Do You Say to ‘That’s So Gay’ & Other Anti-LGBTQ+ Comments?

   It doesn’t matter if it is a first grader who might not realize what the word “gay” means, a sixth grader trying to sound cool or a tenth grader “teasing” a friend. All of these scenarios have the potential of creating an unsafe classroom or school environment and must be addressed. So, what can caring adults do?
   

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   STOP IT…

   Keep it simple with quick responses:

   • “Remember, we don’t apply put-downs in this class.”
   • “Do you know what ‘gay’ means?"
   • “It’s not OK at this school to use ‘gay’ disrespectfully to denote something is bad.”
   • “You may not have meant to be hurtful, but when you use the word ‘gay’ to mean something is bad or stupid, it is hurtful.” Follow-up with, “Do you know why it is hurtful?”
   • “Using any derogatory word to tease someone is harassment and is unacceptable.”
   • “Even if you didn’t mean to offend people who are gay, it is revolting to call this assignment male lover (or queer); if you don’t like something, then say you don’t like it!”