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“You want to shove those words support in and lay the lid on. But you can’t. Your child is gay. This goes against everything you’ve been taught. It was not what you had in mind, and you instantly wonder where you went wrong.”

When you become a parent, you understand to expect the unexpected. But for many Christian parents, nothing can plan them to catch that their beloved child is male lover. This is the child you contain cradled, spoon fed mashed bananas, and dreamed a stunning future for. How could this be? What will the church say? What will your friends say? What does the future hold? You can’t even get your brain around this.

If you are a Christian parent, family member or friend to whom your loved one has show up out as lgbtq+ or lesbian, then this is for you.

I invite you to sit down, relax, maybe become a cup of tea, and soak in what I’m about to inform you. My wish is to instruction you as we walk for a bit through this maze of confusion, to help you find your way to wholeness. In many Christian circles, this is not good news, and you may kickoff to spiral into reflection and self-searching. We’ll ge

LGBTQ Parenting in the US

Family Formation and Stressors

  • Overall, 47% of partnered LGBTQ parents are in a same-gender or transgender-inclusive partnership; however, the majority of cisgender lesbian/gay parents are vs. 10% of cisgender bisexual/queer parents.
  • 78% of LGBTQ parents became parents through current or previous sexual relationships, 20% through stepparenthood, and 6% through adoption.
  • Among parenting households, same-sex couples adopt (21%), foster (4%), and have stepchildren (17%) at significantly higher rates than different-sex couples (3%, %, 6%).
    • Notably among parents, 24% of married lgbtq+ couples have adopted a child versus 3% of married different-sex couples.
  • Approximately 35, same-sex couple parents hold adopted children, and 6, are fostering children. The majority of these couples are married.
  • Among all LGBTQ parents, approximately 57, are fostering children (%). Less than half of these parents are married.
  • Approximately 30% of LGBQ parents are not legally recognized or are unsure about their legal status as the parent/guardian of at least one chi

    Help! My Son is Gay

    by Ricky Chelette, Executive Director

    “So should I push my son towards women now?”  That’s a question I often get from fathers of young men who are struggling with similar gender attractions. Dads are often devastated by the discovery of their son’s homosexuality.  But the retort to their son’s effort is not to shove him into the arms of a woman.  In fact, such a change position could actually do more damage than good.
    But what should a dad do for his son? In a word:  connect!  I realize when saying that many dads might think, “I am related to my son. He’s my son. I’ve been around him since birth. We are fine.”  But the fact is that simply being present doesn’t mean you have any kind of emotional, intimate, connection with your son. He is a sensitive guy who needs to be spoken to in a language he can hear and understand. Proclamations of facts do small to move his heart. He wants words dripping with raw emotion and heart-felt passion. He wants to know you, intimately, and feel the weight of your passion for him.  In many ways, he wants you to look him straight in hi

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    Perhaps it is not surprising that mothers and their queer sons often describe their relationships as close. Compared to fathers, mothers typically have an superiority whereby they usually interact more with their children. However, creature gay might be a factor that makes some mothers and sons even closer. This was found to be true for many of the mothers and sons I interviewed for the study described in the book: Coming Out, Coming Home: Helping Families Adjust to a Queer or Lesbian Child ().

    As stated by M.C. (25):

    My mother and I can best be described as having a friendship as well as a family bond. We get along very adv. We share a lot of the same interests. We act Scrabble togetherWe watch political shows together, like Hardball. We enjoy going on vacations. We contribute some of the same tastes in food-some disagreements here and there, but we joke around. She was very caring and still is a very compassionate mother. I would say it is almost like a friendship between us.

    His mother, Charlotte, a legal secretary, would agree:
    M. C. and I have been especiall